Last month, baseball author Jonah Keri was sentenced to 21 months in jail for abusing his ex-wife, and now she is talking out publicly in regards to the bodily and emotional violence she endured.
Amy Kaufman, who’s publicly revealing her identification as a sufferer on her Twitter account, spoke to the CBC in Canada about her tribulations.
“At the time it felt like a fairytale,” Kaufman mentioned of the onset of her relationship with Keri. “And in retrospect I was being love-bombed. Days planned of picnics and flowers and hotel rooms filled with champagne, and reading me poetry and buying me bubble baths. I did think to myself, and wrote myself a note actually, saying this was the biggest leap of faith I’ve ever taken and I hope I don’t regret it.”
She mentioned that issues started to take a flip when Keri determined to maneuver to Montreal, the place she lived, with out their having a dialog about it — that they’d be sharing her rental, and that he’d be taking up management of the funds. The interviewer outlined Keri’s conduct as “coercive control.”
“A lot of what the relationship was me trying to figure out which one was really him: Is it the fawning, doting guy that wakes up 10 minutes before me each morning to make sure my coffee’s waiting for me on the night table to wake up, or is it the person that calls me a Nazi and pushes me to the ground and bites when angry?” Kaufman requested.
Keri, who was arrested in 2019, pled responsible to allegations that included punching Kaufman and breaking her nostril a month earlier than their child was due, and threatening to kill each her and their unborn child.
The interviewer learn Kaufman an inventory of what she mentioned Keri did to her through the relationship, together with quite a few specs of bodily violence and loss of life threats.
“When I hear it, it doesn’t feel as though it happened to me,” Kaufman mentioned. “Because I’m not the same person that I was in that situation. People who have been in the situation know you go into survival mode. You live in 5-10 minute chunks of the day of just trying to keep things calm, or defer, or appease, or placate, or do anything possible to keep myself safe.”
Kaufman mentioned that, through the interval of abuse, Keri carried on his skilled career with no indicators of the abuse he was leveling in his house life.
“He was completely on [professionally],” she mentioned. “We had a home recording studio for him to do his live hits for CBS Sports. He could go from punching me in the face, close the door, and I would hear, ‘Welcome to the Jonah Keri Show. Hello friends.’ It used to send chills down my spine to realize that this was not an anger issue, it was a control issue.”
She mentioned that the breadth of the state of affairs felt like “torture” and she or he didn’t know if there could be a approach out.
Eventually, Kaufman began recording Keri, and the CBC present performed audio of his anger. Then, they confirmed elevator surveillance footage of Keri headbutting Kaufman, pushing her down, biting her face, slapping her and spitting on her. Kaufman mentioned that proper after that incident occurred, Keri went straight into the studio and recorded a reside hit for CBS.
“I remember thinking that I should just walk in [on the spot] with the bite marks on my face, but I was just too scared,” Kaufman mentioned.
In addition to CBS Sports, Keri beforehand coated baseball for quite a few shops, together with The Athletic and ESPN/Grantland. When he pled responsible to his expenses earlier this year, he mentioned he was sorry however admitted this apology was “meaningless” as a result of “the cycle of violence continued.”