‘My ordeal made me a better girl’

Tracey Ferrin’s husband, Nick, vowed to stay along with her via illness and in well being. 

But, in September 2001, after a year of marriage, the then 18-year-old was recognized with osteosarcoma — a particularly uncommon bone most cancers — in her proper leg. And he hit the highway. 

“The day he left me, I was in my bedroom, and I had just thrown up from the chemo,” Ferrin informed The Post.

Now 38, Ferrin, a health teacher, sees her personal story mirrored within the headlines. On Monday, St. Louis Cardinals participant Albert Pujols, 42, introduced his forthcoming divorce from spouse of 20 years, Deidre — who underwent brain surgical procedure to take away a tumor Saturday.

“I’ve been asked a lot of questions over the past few days regarding what’s been going on at home and sadly, after 22 years of marriage, I have made the decision to file for divorce from my wife, Deidre,” mentioned the athlete in a assertion. He and Deidre share 5 youngsters. 

MLB slugger Albert Puljos announced his decision to divorce his wife of 22 years, Deidre, after she underwent brain tumor removal surgery.
MLB slugger Albert Pujols introduced his choice to divorce his spouse of twenty-two years, Deidre, after she underwent brain tumor removing surgical procedure.
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“As a devout Christian, this is an outcome that I never wanted to see happen,” continued Pujols, who additionally acknowledged that his breakup coincides with baseball season’s opening day, April 7. “For many long days and nights, I prayed, asking the Lord for His guidance.” (Deidre didn’t reply to The Post’s request for remark.)

For Ferrin, the MLB participant’s announcement introduced again recollections of her husband’s abandonment.

It was simply days after the 9/11 terrorist assaults, when her illness grew to become greater than Nick, then 20, might bear. “I think seeing me throw up is what triggered him,” recalled Ferrin, who lives in Houston, Texas. She selected to not disclose Nick’s final identify for privateness causes.

“I don’t remember exactly what he said to me,” she admitted of her ex, who died by suicide in 2016, “however he referred to as a pal to return and decide him up, packed a bag and left.“

A month into her chemotherapy treatments, Ferrin's ex-husband, Nick, left her and their 10-month-old daughter Elly.
A month into her chemotherapy remedies, Ferrin’s ex-husband, Nick, left her and their 10-month-old daughter, Elly.
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And to make issues worse, on the time of her prognosis and Nick’s abrupt departure, she was six months pregnant with their second daughter. Their first youngster, Elly, was solely 10 months outdated. 

“I was totally heartbroken, crying and I begged him to stay, but he didn’t,” mentioned Ferrin, who, throughout her third trimester, started remedy on the University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer Center. 

“While I was going through chemo, doctors told me that it’s much more common for men to leave when a woman is sick than it is for a woman leaving when her husband gets sick,” she mentioned. 

Beyond the Pujols, there are different high-profile examples: former senator and presidential candidate John Edwards, 68, from North Carolina, notoriously confessed to participating in an extramarital affair whereas his since-deceased spouse, Elizabeth Edwards, grappled with breast most cancers, earlier than she died in 2010. They had been married for 33 years.

Music heavyweight David Foster ultimately ended his seven-year marriage to Yolanda Hadid in 2017, after her complications with Lyme disease proved to be too much for him to handle.
Music heavyweight David Foster finally ended his marriage to Yolanda Hadid in 2017, after her problems with Lyme illness proved to be an excessive amount of for him to deal with.
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Then there’s music magnate David Foster, 72, whose former spouse and ex “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” star Yolanda Hadid, 58, struggled with a Lyme illness prognosis. In her 2015 memoir, “Believe Me: My Battle With the Invisibility of Lyme Disease,” the veteran supermodel described how the insomnia, joint ache and exhaustion introduced on from her dysfunction rendered Foster — who later married “American Idol” alum Katharine McPhee, 38, in 2019 — “unhappy” of their union.

But, “if he didn’t leave the marriage I would not be where I am today,” she wrote.

Ferrin advises others with similar experiences to find the silver-lining in their personal tragedy.
Ferrin advises others with comparable experiences to search out the silver lining of their personal tragedy.
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Ferrin — who finally gave delivery to a wholesome child woman, Fayth, now 20, and whose most cancers has been in remission for the previous 20 years — mentioned the identical is true for her.

“I always say, ‘If a man can’t handle you at your worst, he doesn’t [deserve to] get you at your best,’ ” mentioned Ferrin, including that she holds no ill-will in direction of her late ex. “And if cancer [wasn’t the thing that caused Nick to leave], something else would have drove him away.”

After divorcing Nick in 2003, she went on to marry her present husband, Ryan, with whom she shares sons Bubba, 17, and Noah, 13. And she authored her self-help tome “Up Struggle: Embrace the Struggle, Become Stronger, Live Happier,” in 2020. 

Ferrin went on to give birth to a health baby girl, remarry and welcome two more children with her new husband, Ryan.
Ferrin went on to provide delivery to a wholesome child woman, remarry and welcome two extra youngsters along with her new husband, Ryan.
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“My experiences have made me stronger. I’ve learned empathy and compassion for others,” Ferrin informed The Post. “I’m not grateful for cancer, but I’m grateful for the life lessons it taught me, and how the ordeal made me a better woman.”

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